Relationship Advice for All Areas of Your Life

8. You should avoid hurting your partner's feelings at all costs to preserve your relationship.

Many people think that avoiding hurting someone's feelings is more important than telling the truth about an irritating problem, but that actually perpetuates the problem, and often leads to the destruction of a relationship. You get much better results by focusing on how to solve the problem without blaming anyone for causing it.
 
9. Your partner is responsible for how you feel.
 
You may think that other people can make you feel bad, but the truth is that when you realize they can't do this without your cooperation, you won't get hooked by their criticism or lack of respect. People often feel angry because a life partner is treating them badly, but usually it's because they have let accumulated small resentments build walls between them when all they really want is to be close to each other
 
10. You and your partner should never argue.
 
People sometimes think that never arguing with each other will maker relationships strong. What usually happens is that because we're human we have different needs and wants. If we pretend those don't exist and don't ask that they be taken into consideration, we feel disappointed and angry and hide our feelings. The pressure of those hidden feelings leads to the conclusion that the relationship is not right for us, and we leave. The truth is that when people learn to argue in healthy ways they tend to stay together.