Hi
First I would like to thank God for people like you. I have learned a lot from you and really appreciate you.
Now my question is, how do I restore the love that my man once had for me?
After I gave birth to our baby he started seeing someone else. We were planning to get married until I found this out. I told him to go on with her as he had strong feelings for her.
It’s been 8 months now and I still see him about 3 times a week. At first he wouldn’t even touch me but now he shows signs of interest in me again.
I don’t know what to do as I love him to death. I’ve been acting as if I don’t love him all this time but now I desperately want him back
What should I do?
(Name withheld)
My response:
Dear…
This man isn’t your man any more. If he goes with you now, he betrays still another woman. If you get him back and have another child, be prepared for him to leave again.
I suggest that as painful as it seems now, you not try to get him back. Develop your own strength as a person so that if any person treats you badly you count your own feelings as much as theirs and say “what I want is just as important as what you want, how can we work things out together.”
My book, I Don’t Need Therapy, but Where Do I Turn for Answers? might be helpful.
Warmly,
Laurie
[tags]Relationships, Self Care, Separateness, Communication, Boundaries, CoDependency, Relationship Advice[/tags]
