Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW posted an excellent article on taking the time to make New Year’s Resolutions for your relationship together as well as separately on her Psychology Today blog.
She includes the suggestion that you ask yourself “What would be one or two small things that my partner and I could do this week that would make us both feel that we are on track to accomplishing our goal?” There are many suggestions of activities you can use posted throughout this blog.
I wish you a New Year filled with joy and connection with the people who are important to you!
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Request that your partner celebrate special events in your life in the way that is most meaningful to you. Emphasize exactly what you want and how you want it, or your partner may not understand your needs.
If you want to be treated as if you are king or queen for a day on your birthday, and your partner does not think that birthdays are very important, you’ll have to explain that you want breakfast in bed and a choice of activities designed to delight you. If you would rather open your presents on Christmas Eve than on Christmas morning you need to make that clear also.
You don’t need to do something just because your partner wants you to, but when you get this kind of information, you do need to negotiate about what each of you is willing to do to please the other.
Your assignment, should you choose to accept it:
Imagine what a perfect “special day” would be like for you. Tell your partner, in detail, exactly what you have imagined. Make agreements about what you will do for each other when those special days occur. Take notes and put them where you will find them to help you remember your agreements.
This is an excerpt from Being Happy Together: How to Have a Fabulous Relationship With Your Life Partner in Less Than an Hour a Week, by Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.
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Use a computer system such as Quicken to track where your money is coming from and going to. You can use this information to make informed decisions about how to allocate or budget your resources.
When you make a commitment to pay attention to your finances, you almost automatically gain more control over your lives. When you discover how your money vanishes into unsuspected black holes, you will probably decide to make some changes.
Your assignment, should you choose to accept it:
If you don’t already have a system for keeping track of how you spend your money, create one now. Either purchase and install the software, or use a paper system. If your system is already in place, review your spending for the past three months.
This is an excerpt from Being Happy Together: How to Have a Fabulous Relationship With Your Life Partner in Less Than an Hour a Week, by Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.
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