Laurie
Thanks for the emails and updates. I wondered if you are aware of any support groups to work on my issues of codependency? Do people still just go to Alanon? (I recently divorced and my ex was addicted to “chat rooms”, and spending. He is a narcissist and I enabled him financially, but only came to this knowledge in counseling about one year ago. I am so ready to try to move toward healing..
Thanks for any suggestions..
V.
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Hi, V,
Congratulations on getting on with your life. Here are some resources.
Co-dependents Anon, http://www.codependents.org/ still exists and has a meeting finder on their website. Alanon is still useful. Jonathan and I both still work with people about these issues individually either in person or by phone or Skype.
If you want to look at the Inner Child issues that made you vulnerable in the first place there are still some issues of An Action Plan for Your Inner Child: Parenting Each Other on our website, http://www.EmpowermentSystems.com/publications . Our book, Recovery from CoDependency: It’s Never Too Late to Reclaim Your Childhood is available on Amazon.
Laurie
Is this you? “I don’t need therapy, but I could use some advice about…”
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Play together in silly ways. Blow bubbles, finger paint with chocolate pudding on the kitchen table and lick it off, splash each other, sing …
When you are tired, stressed or tense, one of the fastest ways to release the tension is to find a reason to laugh together. Doing silly things together is a great way to do this. It doesn’t have to take very long, and either one of you can start the process rolling.
Your assignment, should you choose to accept it:
Make a list of silly things you can do together. Choose one thing and do it. If you can’t think of anything to put on your list, choose something from my earlier suggestions and do that.
This is an excerpt from Being Happy Together: How to Have a Fabulous
Relationship With Your Life Partner in Less Than an Hour a Week,
by Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.
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Amanda writes, “I have been married for only 8 months and it seems that my life revolves around my husband a lot! Help!” Leanne, depressed after her first 8 months, had virtually the same complaint. And to tell the truth, I could have said the same thing 48 years ago — if there had been anyone to say it to. It took me several years of confusion to seek help.
Myth #1. We all bought into the belief that when you get married two are supposed to become one.
Myth #2. We believed that, once we’re married our job is to make our husbands happy. Continue reading »
written by Laurie Weiss
Consider whether or not you will do something your partner wants you to do. Sometimes, doing something you do not especially want to do for your partner costs you very little in time or inconvenience and is very important to your partner. Sometimes, it is very expensive emotionally.
If you decide not to do something your partner wants you to do, explain the reasons why you are refusing your partner’s request. If you choose to comply with your partner’s request, tell your partner the truth, “I don’t especially want to do this, but I’ll be happy to do it because it’s important to you.”
Your assignment, should you choose to accept it:
When your partner asks you to do something that you ordinarily don’t do, take a few extra minutes to think about whether or not it is something that you really want to do. Tell your partner, “I need to think about this for a moment.” Then tell your partner what you’ve decided and why.
This is an excerpt from Being Happy Together: How to Have a Fabulous Relationship With Your Life Partner in Less Than an Hour a Week, by Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.
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