Forgo retaliation about money. If your partner spends money in a way that upsets you, discuss the problem, instead of going out and spending to get even with your partner.
Retaliation can lead to financial disaster. Upsets about how money is spent often mean that you do not have clear goals and guidelines about your financial life. Focus your conversation on establishing these goals and guidelines.
Your weekly assignment, should you choose to accept it:
Have a conversation about how your spending patterns either support or undermine your goals. Decide if any changes are necessary.
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