What happened next is one example of the law of unintended consequences.
We kept being asked to teach what we were learning and we might have continued to have quiet psychotherapy and training business, but it would've stopped there:
— if it had not been for accidentally getting entangled in a process where we both
learned a huge amount about business and leadership
— stumbled headlong back into our own codependency issues
— and I got so depressed I felt compelled to risk destroying both our business and our marriage before we managed to get back on track.
I wrote about that in some detail in What Is The Emperor Wearing? Truth-Telling in Business Relationships and The Integrity Course. But that was many years later, after the success of three books on psychotherapy and personal development. They are described at www.EmpowermentSystems.com/publications
We tested our relationship by writing one of those books (Recovery From CoDependency: It’s Never Too Late to Reclaim Your Childhood) together and learned more about how our radically different personal styles are almost completely the opposite of traditional social roles.
You can probably see why I feel like we have so much to share. The photo is from the back of the Recovery book.
And we've shared it in all kinds of ways in the past — even though so much comes out under just my name, we are definitely still partners.
We use just my name because five years ago, as we were getting deeper into this Internet world, our coach advised us that Internet users are more responsive to women. He told us to put my face and name forward even though Jonathan and I had been business partners for over 30 years.
Now I’m not so sure that really was a good idea. It’s true that I am the writer and I like more people contact than he does, but what’s also true is that we’ve been in this together for a long time
He is a fabulous therapist, coach and teacher also and over the past few years he has become the IT department as well. He provides office support and runs the business details so I’m free to be creative.
We actually stopped doing our groups together in Y2K. That seems just yesterday. But since then his technical skills have allowed us to make much of our material available online.
One of our most popular products has included the tips I spent several years developing for helping you create your own fabulous relationship: Being Happy Together: How to Create a Fabulous Relationship With Your Life Partner in Less Than an Hour a Week.
One of the ways we've decided to celebrate this special anniversary is to re-release this popular relationship development program.
Yes I wrote it, but it's really about what we have learned to do to help our clients and to make our own relationship work in our 50 years together.
Yes, we finally have it sorted out and I’m thrilled that we've been able to include some fabulous new bonuses as well. We even have an extra bonus for the first 50 purchasers.
I won't tell you where you can get your own copy until it can give you more details about the program — very soon.
Meanwhile, we want to try something different: A CONTEST!
We want to GIVE AWAY a copy of the program, the bonuses and the special bonus as well. All you need to DO to win it is to write and let us know why you want/need to have it. Post your entry as a comment here and we will choose the winner by Midnight ET Monday, October 4.
PS Enter the contest right now while you're thinking of it.