Honor your partner’s report of how s/he feels. Insisting that s/he does or should feel differently about anything is like saying you understand your partner better than s/he understands him/herself. You don’t!
The truth is probably that YOU wish that your partner felt differently. Feelings are temporary responses to life imbalances. Asking questions about the reasons your partner feels as s/he does will help both of you understand the situation.
Your weekly assignment, should you choose to accept it:
Have a conversation with your partner about whether this is a problem for either of you. If it is, practice looking at the reasons for feelings together. Make an agreement to alert each other any time the problem recurs.
This is an excerpt from Being Happy Together: How to Have a Fabulous Relationship With Your Life Partner in Less Than an Hour a Week, by Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.