Comments on: Ask Dr. Laurie http://relationshiphq.com/blog Sun, 15 Jan 2012 00:58:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: admin http://relationshiphq.com/blog/ask-dr-laurie/comment-page-1/#comment-35 admin Thu, 25 Feb 2010 20:49:31 +0000 http://www.relationshiphq.com/blog/?page_id=52#comment-35 Sometimes starting with a disclaimer helps. "I am afraid you will feel criticized by what I want to tell you. It isn't about you doing something wrong; it's about trying to improve something that I think could work better between us. Is this a good time to talk about it?" If you get agreement, talk about a very specific change you would like and why it would be valuable to you. (How you will feel.) Wash, rinse and repeat as necessary. If you do not get agreement to have the conversation now, ask when would be a good time and try to have it then. I have other suggestions if this doesn't work. I see that you are now enrolled in The Integrity Course and many of the business suggestions you will find there are also applicable in personal situations. Dr Laurie Sometimes starting with a disclaimer helps. “I am afraid you will feel criticized by what I want to tell you. It isn’t about you doing something wrong; it’s about trying to improve something that I think could work better between us. Is this a good time to talk about it?” If you get agreement, talk about a very specific change you would like and why it would be valuable to you. (How you will feel.) Wash, rinse and repeat as necessary.

If you do not get agreement to have the conversation now, ask when would be a good time and try to have it then.

I have other suggestions if this doesn’t work. I see that you are now enrolled in The Integrity Course and many of the business suggestions you will find there are also applicable in personal situations.

Dr Laurie

]]> By: cynthia mombourquette http://relationshiphq.com/blog/ask-dr-laurie/comment-page-1/#comment-34 cynthia mombourquette Thu, 25 Feb 2010 15:38:10 +0000 http://www.relationshiphq.com/blog/?page_id=52#comment-34 <font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">I try to share my wants and needs with my significant other but when I say things like these are three things I wish you had acknowledged me for, he hears criticism – he takes it as a personal attack and retaliates.</font> I try to share my wants and needs with my significant other but when I say things like these are three things I wish you had acknowledged me for, he hears criticism – he takes it as a personal attack and retaliates.

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