Category Archives: Separateness

Multiple Accounts Often Make Sense

Consider having both separate and joint accounts, and decide which expenses will be paid from which account. Most people feel happier and more empowered when they don’t need to account to anyone else about their personal spending. There’s no single … Continue reading

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We nearly derailed ourselves [+ time-sensitive contest]

What happened next is one example of the law of unintended consequences.   We kept being asked to teach what we were learning and we might have continued to have quiet psychotherapy and training business, but it would've stopped there: … Continue reading

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Your Video Gift Is Ready

I used my time at home to nurture our newly created Denver TA Community, continue my own TA training and even begin to teach some of the classes we were offering. Since the only training was aimed at therapists, I … Continue reading

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Ask Before You Try to Help

Find out whether or not your partner wants your help in solving a problem before you jump in and offer suggestions. Some people just want a sympathetic listener and will feel insulted if you try to help. It’s only natural … Continue reading

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Marriage: After The Honeymoon Is Over

When I first married I was not conscious of trying to change my new wife into my ideal, though that’s exactly what I was doing. It was selfish of me…” (Excerpt from comment Ray left on 3/20/2010) Ray isn't alone. … Continue reading

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