Marriage is a Choice

Getting married used to be for everyone. It is now much more of an individual choice. Now, whether you want or expect to get married depends a lot on your life experiences up until today.

If you have had the experience of coming from a family where your parents expected you to go to college–and you did, you are much more likely to expect to marry at some time in your future.

On the other hand, if you started your independent life right after high school, or even before that, then you probably have friends who are not particularly interested in marriage.

These are social trends and I am not judging, just reporting about them. I don’t know why, I just have seen lots of statistics about what seems to be happening.

Of course, trends do not speak for individuals and no matter what your background, you may fall into the marrying or not-marrying group.

Personally, I believe that deciding to have children is an excellent reason to decide to marry. Children do best when they have loving relationships with adults who care for them.

Being married is one way of committing to stay in a relationship and grow together and be there for each other and for your children.

This paragraph is a comment I wrote about a passage on Page 14 of Are You My Perfect Partner? You can see the passage in the book. You can also see the excerpt here. This link will take you to Bublish.com, where I regularly publish comments on parts of this book. This is a site where authors share of their work. You can subscribe to my musings, there, as well as to the musings of many other authors. It’s a great place to learn about new books and I recommend that you visit. You can get the book HERE.

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I Am Glad I Wrote This

I almost didn't write this book, that was originally published as "99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Saying 'I Do.'" The publisher wanted me to fit her series and I was not sure I wanted to and I did not want to do the work of distilling what I knew women needed to know.

Then a friend said, "We'll help you." and I realized that I could ask other women, lots of them, to answer  my basic question.

Actually, there were two questions: "Have you ever been married?" and, if the answer was yes, "What do you wish you had known before you got married?"

I had a wonderful time doing the research. I asked the question wherever I was–in the locker room at the Y, in a sewing circle, waiting in line at the post office–you get the idea. The discussions were incredible.

On line answers came from 8 different countries, and the resulting distillation of information provided women with information they really needed. The reviews were great.

Read it, enjoy–and learn!

This paragraph is a comment I wrote about a passage on Page 16 of Being Married: Secrets Women Wish They Knew. You can see the passage in the book. You can also see the excerpt here. This link will take you to Bublish.com, where I regularly publish comments on parts of this book. This is a site where authors share of their work. You can subscribe to my musings, there, as well as to the musings of many other authors. It’s a great place to learn about new books and I recommend that you visit. You can get the book HERE.

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Is This Normal?

It is normal to wonder if you are normal. Whether it makes sense or not, we tend to see if we are like other people. We want to fit in and be accepted.

It's important to balance this wish with the understanding that there are so many extra forces pushing you to pay attention to what others are doing and to try to fit in, that it's way too easy to lose your connection with who you are and what is right for you.

You need to know this, whether or not it will help you get accepted by others.

Successfully finding your way in the world is really a balancing act. It's a little bit of trying to answer questions over and over again. Who am I? Who are they? What do I want/need right now (this changes constantly)? How do I fit in?

It gets easier with practice, but there is no right answer. You can even learn to enjoy it as much as you enjoyed the swing and teeter-totter when you were a kid.

This paragraph is a comment I wrote about a passage on Page 10 of Are You My Perfect Partner? You can see the passage in the book. You can also see the excerpt here. This link will take you to Bublish.com, where I regularly publish comments on parts of this book. This is a site where authors share of their work. You can subscribe to my musings, there, as well as to the musings of many other authors. It’s a great place to learn about new books and I recommend that you visit. You can get the book HERE.

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It Happened!

It happened! Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic
Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only Words (Rapid
Relief with Logosynthesis®)
 has ten 5-star reviews on

Amazon!

See the reviews for yourself at
http://www.BooksbyLaurie.com/go! They are labeled this
way:

  • Miraculous!
  • Surprisingly effective! Definitely recommended
  • Letting It Go is an easy and quick read on a
    complicated topic.
  • Try it for yourself, it is amazing!
  • A "must have" of many uses.
  • I recommend this book to anyone.
  • Amazing Results
  • "Letting" is just the word!
  • What a great method I can't believe how different I
    felt and …
  • What a wonderful and inspiring book.

I am very excited that this book really is making a
difference for lots of people!

Need I say more? Get your copy now! It is available in
print and as an ebook most places books are sold. Your
bookstore can order it for you. Audio is coming soon.

Libraries will consider offering a book with 25
reviews, so after you read your copy, please add your
review to the list.

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It’s What I Hoped For!

Something wonderful is happening! Yesterday I met with
a group of people who got copies of Letting It Go 
a few weeks ago. They reported using the information in the
book to use Logosynthesis by themselves to make changes
in their lives that amazed them. They were incredibly
excited and I was awed! What I hoped for in writing the
book is actually happening.

And most of them asked to buy more books to share with
people they care about. In fact, when I started
thinking about it, I realized that once people tell me
how much they like the book, they tell me that after
they read it and started to use it, they gave it to
their daughter or husband or son or brother or best
friend.

This is very exciting and I keep thinking about more
and more ways that we can spread this wonderful,
magical gift I have been given.

Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic 
Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only 
Words (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis®
)
 

should now be available on all major bookselling platforms. 
You can also order it through bookstores.

The truth is, there’s much more to letting people know
about this book than I can do myself. There are things
that only I can do. They include creating materials and
webpages for people who come to my website looking for
information. I haven’t done them yet.

I stop myself by thinking I should wait until
everything is done, but it never will be all done. So
as one of my teachers once said, “I’m trying to build
this bicycle while I’m riding it downhill at 50 miles
an hour.”

I need all the help I can get. First, if you haven’t
read the book yet, get a copy and read it now. You’ll
be glad you did. If you have read the book, please
leave a review on Amazon.comGoodreads.com or wherever 
you purchase the book. Then get an extra copy and share it
with someone you love.

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