Respond Instead of Counterattacking

Admit your mistakes even if you don’t like the way your partner confronts you about them. It is tempting to defend yourself by attacking your partner, but if you do, you both lose in the long run.

When you feel attacked by your partner’s tone of voice or angry expression, it’s much easier to think about what s/he is doing wrong instead of what’s being said. Make the effort to listen and respond to your partner’s words. You can discuss your feelings about the delivery system later.

Your weekly assignment, should you choose to accept it:

Discuss a recent situation in which either you or your partner was unhappy about the outcome. Practice acknowledging to each other what you did that made the situation worse. It can be as simple as saying, “Yes, I raised my voice.”

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