Breaking Up: How Can I Get My Ex Back? (Part 2 of 2)

Jason’s 2nd Letter

 Hey this is Jason from Slovakia; feel free to post my message anywhere you want.

 If something happens during these days that I would have to make rash decisions I would like to get some more advice from you. Thanks for all the advice you gave me earlier by the way.

 I would just want to comment on one advice you gave me about taking several years for me and Marie to go into a relationship. I know you’re an expert but several years like let's say 4 are just way too long.

 We have a history together and planed a future together. It's hard for me to explain what we had. We are young, but I know allot of people who date, are in a relationship etc. but I could never compare our relationship with any of them. It was much more different.

 A lot of others had arguments, didn't care that much for one another … and when it comes to us, we had to be patient every day and only type through internet without the feel of a touch.  And when that day finally came, it was a '' BIG BANG '' just to feel, see and kiss each other.

When the day came to an end, tears were falling most of the time as the cycle repeats itself. So you see it isn't all that I couldn't move on from a girl. It’s because the bond was tremendous.

Right now I'm following the book '' THE MAGIC OF MAKING UP '' written by T.W Jackson, you might have heard of it.  It has given me so much confidence and hope that I can't leave behind. It also says to be prepared to let go before I see her again.

So by that time I must prepare myself if it isn't the right time. This is a real grab to the heart and the hardest step. If you could send me another reply I would be happy to hear more from you and would want to read from some of your people that got together and their story.

 Response #2

Dear Jason,

I am glad that you have the book to help you. Letting go is the key and I know it is a real challenge. I found two quotes about letting go that may be helpful. One is very old…

If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was. We do not possess anything in this world, least of all other people. We only imagine that we do. Our friends, our lovers, our spouses, even our children are not ours; they belong only to themselves. Possessive and controlling friendships and relationships can be as harmful as neglect.

Alison Willcocks adds: This ancient Chinese proverb articulates a powerful truth

This one is written more recently.

Don't hold the butterfly too tight, or he will struggle to be free…

Letting go of love, letting the butterfly go free.
Don't grasp it in your hands or it will die.
Hold the love and laughter within your heart.

As long as you keep growing and learning you will do fine. You’ll find that both joy and disappointment are necessary parts of life and everyone needs to manage both.



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