Marriage: Who Does What?

Expectations of relationships have changed a lot in the past 50 years.

Reading the best-selling book, The Help by Kathryn Stockett, reminded me that as a young woman I was taught that being married always meant putting the needs of your husband first, always – no matter what.

That's a huge difference from my current belief that relationships, especially marriage, only work when they take into account the needs and feelings of both people and what is possible in any given situation.

An article in the Wall Street Journal of beautifully describes what happens over time in a healthy, busy,  2011 style marriage. In The Dance of Marriage: Who Does What? Katherine Rosman describes the trade-offs that occur and the valuable things that she actually does exchange with her husband.

It's so rare to find such a good, realistic description that I recommend clicking over and spending the 3 minutes it will take to read her article.

Then, if you would like instructions on how to do it yourself, check out the Being Happy Program at

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